Cards on the table: I like to write. Maybe a little too much.
It’s inconvenient to have crapped-out wrists that limit typing severely and a voice just weird enough in accent & vocal fry to make dictation software stare back at me, blinking blankly, instead of capturing the marvelous flow of inspiration…
Yeah. To heck with that. I have to make it simpler.
I have a bunch of self-documentation templates and techniques which I’ve been meaning to write about, because we know how important providing evidence of your own experience can be and because… I like to write.
Sigh.
I’m not trying to make them pretty and I’m certainly not taking the time to make them generic or pare out the details of what I’ve tried and used over the years. I like doing that, but wanting to do that is what has kept from getting this stuff up… for years.
I’m just going to throw them at you instead. You’re all smart enough to take what you like and leave the rest. Have fun!
Note: All of my Self-Documentation by LivingAnyway.com is marked CC0 1.0. To view a copy of this mark, visit https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/
TL;DR – it’s a formal way of making this work Public Domain. Go wild. It’s yours now.
Pro Tip: There are good health tracker apps now, and one or two are very good. If they work for you, that’s good enough!
If, like me, screens hurt your eyes and tapping hurts your hands, you might want to consider the ol’ pen-and-paper method here.
We’ve got logs in color. We’ve got ’em in black and white. We’ve got half sheets, whole sheets. We’ve got tables, checkboxes, body maps… anything I could think of to make using these a low-cognition task:
You can see how my tracking changed depending on just how sick I was vs. how much activity I could (or, more often, wanted to) expect from myself. They show how my priorities and needs shifted, what worked for me well enough to track, and so on. Don’t worry that it seems rather personal – it’s all information; information is a good thing; good things should be shared. You might find a relevant format to start your own tracker from.
They’re in PDF format, for technical reasons. Conversion tools and PDF editing tools are available, some of them for free. Have fun, and come back here to re-download if you mess something up. This is a no-shame zone.
Having crashed and burned in a (for me) spectacular manner, I’m being (ahem) encouraged by many of my nearest and dearest to stop pretending I’m so much healthier and stronger and more multi-systemically resilient than I am.
My underlying state of health is not good, and I hate discussing it. It’s tiresome and depressing. That said, ignoring it obviously doesn’t work for long. Need a 3rd way.
I’m pushing 60. Time to stop pretending I’m 34… which was my last year of what I still reflexively consider my normal health & athleticism, and it was also when this pain syndrome was laying down its first tracks. Between multiple bereavements, recurring respiratory infections, and repeated courses of megadeath antibiotics, my nervous system was primed for disruption.
As one friend said, “We habitually present a version of our pre-CRPS selves” and, outside my 4 walls and the privacy within, I don’t seem to have anyone else to be yet. How can I exist without coming off as hardy and buoyant? I don’t know what that could even look like.
I go out and do things in public view, then crawl home (nope still no car, yes it’s been all of 2025, yes I’m struggling more all the time, don’t ask) to recover in private. Those are my 2 gears. I’ve recently developed a half-gear of being in my garden plot, but that now requires a lift because the bus is too brutal – although I love that it’s currently free!
It feels like I’m waiting for the world to allow me to heal. If that sounds self-pitying, you’re probably right. I’m new to un-masking, and it’ll take practice to get the tone right – un-self-pitying, but fully honest for a change.
Showing showering
I’ve been drawing cartoons of lives like mine for years. I was waiting to put them into a book, but they’re doing no good in my folio and some have been there for way too long. I’ve also drawn communication tools. It didn’t seem time to share them before, but it sure does now.
First up…
Taking a shower on a bad day:
When I’m rash enough to shower on a bad day, it feels kinda like this.
This picture isn’t finished, but it’s good enough. You can enlarge it to see the way the (to my senses) appalling changes of temperature wrap around every individual drop’s path all the way into the drain.
I couldn’t find a way to draw the way each drop feels like there’s a hook in its head, physically latching onto and dragging energy out of my body. That doesn’t hurt (unlike the hot/cold nonsense) but boy, is it exhausting!
So, when you can tell (pew!) that I haven’t had a proper shower or even gotten wet recently, you’ll be able to surmise that the pain has been higher than my ability to cope with the intensity of the experience.
For the record – I gritted my teeth and showered & washed my hair yesterday morning! I’m taking a bow, frankly. I had a familiar audiobook to listen to, which sometimes can keep my attention off those hot/cold and dragging sensations.
Keep in mind that everyone’s pain is their own. CRPSers don’t all have the same experience in the shower, because, for some, it’s awful in some other way. Not all days are this bad, even 24 years in. Nuance is key. Also, boundaries.
My pain isn’t yours, and nor should it be.
The idea here is to give you a chance to look on, without looking for anything more than your witness. That right there is a powerful thing: just being seen.
Don’t take it on. Just adjust your expectations, maybe, as I’m learning to do myself.
If you’re a bio-nerd, read up on how humans go from mad mitosis to having skin and organs. It is absolutely fascinating – and explains a lot about neurological variations!
Communication tool: moods & self-care
I’ve also got a delightful communication tool to share.
As we all now know, my mood may not reflect the outward, apparent situation. There can be stuff burbling away that affects me in ways I might not realize, but others can.
I came up with a rough drawing of a rating scale for my housemates to use (when I had some) and it was a huge help to get that objective feedback – without anyone being defensive! I’d sometimes find the magnet moved to a different number, then go away and take care of myself until I was pretty sure it could move back up. Usually, though, they felt free to call me over and show me where my behavior was, and I loved their honesty. Did me a lot of good.
I particularly like how it indicates when a level of irritation is appropriate. That was a mind- blower for me, as I’d been telling myself that it was always bad to be unpleasant. Nope! Sometimes it’s perfectly appropriate!
I think, and hope, that sharing these images and tools will:
A. Be useful, and
B. Get it right through the concrete (taps own head) that I need to come up with ways to live and engage with the world that are congruent with this reality.
My inner Cleopatra, queen of de Nile, needs to get back to Egypt.
Cheers and virtual hugs are most welcome! I’m daunted by this job. I mean… I value honesty enormously… just not about my weaknesses and disabilities 🤣
