New times; new topics

Isy / / activity, ANS and fight-or-flight, imp-possible, moving/traveling, perspective, radical presence/radical acceptance

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I’m not going to mention current events in my country.

This is a series about traveling…

Traveling in interesting ways.

The ADHD is strong in this one:

If a thing is interesting, it is ever so much more bearable.

If I were to travel, I would like to bring my pet.

I hear some of you shouting, “Why, you insufferable loon? Don’t you have enough to deal with??” (Sorry, Mom.)

For one thing, I like her company; for another, she keeps me on schedule and is really good at “body-doubling”, or hanging around to help me focus on a task. She literally holds the yarn while I crochet, and tracks the loose bits of thread when I’m sewing. Cats are supposed to be interfering, but she’s genuinely helpful.

Also… Traveling with a pet definitely makes this more interesting.

Chapter 1: pet passport

I was going to start with the effort to find a vet to make her travel certification happen. I’m not up to that right now.

Chapter 2: Trip planning

I’ve been reading up on alllllllll the aspects of this trip for a long time. Years, really, but most recently for about 3 weeks. It takes some noodling around just to find out if it’s impossible or just kinda weird.

In case it isn’t obvious, I’m okay with weird. Impossible takes a little longer.

Aspects to understand for planning a trip like this:

– The only way to get to my target continent is by air.

– Some airlines are pet-friendly.

– Some airlines that are pet-friendly for domestic flights somehow refuse to carry animals at all on international flights.

– Some airlines that are willing to carry animals on international flights, don’t allow them in the cabin. From my experiences before, I absolutely, flatly refuse to send a cat in the hold, regardless of the airline’s reputation. Never again.

– Am I overthinking/ over-explaining? I think I am.

Point is, there are all these layers and layers of information to dig through. I had to keep on digging through possibilities, then peel back the incompatible options, until everything finally got very simple.

Cats are not supposed to be in a carrier for more than about 7.5 hours. So, all I really had to do was get her from my airport to an airport less than 8 hours away; 3 to choose from. Flights within that other continent are all within that time frame, so the crossing was all that mattered.

Still with me? Good.

Flying into one of these 3 cities puts me at the heart of the high-speed rail line, something I’ve been coveting a ride on since it was first mooted roughly half a century ago.

At the other end of that high-speed rail line is a ferry ride, a 16-hour journey over one of the most adorable seas in the world, to an island that entrances me.

The total cost of the train and ferry (even with the pet) comes out to less than half the cost of another darned multi-leg plane trip *without* the pet, eating bad food, too far up to enjoy the scenery, and breathing other peoples’ air.

In short, if I were to organize such a trip, we’d have 3 modes of transport over 40 hours, lungfuls of fresh air, and moonlight on the Mediterranean to welcome me home.

I might love it. I might hate it and never want to do any of that again. Doesn’t matter from here… because it’s interesting, it’s affordable, and I want to give it a shot.

 

Another chance to get it right

Isy / / activity, adaptation, basics, critical thinking, Dept. of Blith. Obv., humor, imp-possible, moving/traveling, perspective, radical presence/radical acceptance, realpolitik, what works

I’ve been chewing over something for awhile and recently realized that it might be time to apply that much mercy to myself. It’s a more coherent, whole way of thinking about what I discussed in some panic in my previous post.

Complex chronic spoonies tend to drive ourselves hard because we really have no option (the exhausting, but relevant, internal chorus of “adapt or die, figure it out or eff off, push through or give up, fight or fall” is inescapable) but does it need to be so ubiquitous?

A lot of these posts have been oriented on finding light through the cracks, on putting life itself into center stage somehow. I think I’m cooking up a new way of doing that.

The most basic of basics

Many years ago, when I was working as an emergency nurse, I realized that (despite the hype & excitement) our job was fundamentally simple: give people another chance to get “it” right.

Whether “it” was keeping up with their meds, staying off of whatever was poisoning them, choosing better company, finding the healing path that worked for them – whatever. There are fewer “its” than their are people working on them, which is why we are never the only one with our struggles.

That made more sense inside my head. Sorry.

People wind up in the ER because something bad happened, and usually human ignorance, stupidity, or violence was involved.

That’s not about blame. People don’t always get to choose their company or can’t always bear to be alive without some kind of buffer between them and their situations. Even if they did do something colossally daft (like the rich kids who decided to cut out the middlemen and drive 350 miles to buy their drugs from the distributor; 4 came down, 1 eventually went back), it’s not right to require mistakes to be terminal if they don’t have to be. 

Of course people with heart disease should take their meds even when they feel fine, and get periodic blood tests to show that it’s working. Of course people with diabetes should keep an eye on their blood sugar and stay on their meds. Of course primary care when you first get symptoms is better than going to the ER when you start to fall to pieces… but it’s awfully hard to find a primary doctor these days.

Life is complicated and increasingly expensive. ER work really shows that.

Anyway, I saw our job not as holding back the sea with a broom (as some do), but as giving individual people a chance to figure out how to do things better. Lift properly. Drive sensibly. Stay off the hard stuff. Find an appropriate doctor who’ll listen – and then talk with them.

Nobody likes to be told, so reciting these mantras to them doesn’t often make sense. Oddly enough, it can be a lot more meaningful when you’re meeting their worried gaze as you administer the medication or fit their c-collar or go over the x-rays with them. Or tape and dress the wounds in their wrists.

There is so much we don’t control… sometimes we just have to remember what we could control, and how to put that in reach. It’s not easy, but it’s often very simple. When the universe is dropping its big hammer, where do I need to be when it lands? Under it? Or can I get off to one side? What will I have to let go of in order to get out of the way? Is it worth it?

The answers to this aren’t always obvious, and “worth it” to some is not the same “worth it” as for others.

What that looked like in practice

We had a lot of repeat customers. Some of them I wound up zipping into body bags, because what it took to get out from under the universe’s hammer was either too far out of reach or not ultimately worth the effort of letting go of what they were clinging to. They mostly didn’t want to die, but it wound up being too hard to do what it took to live.

I’ve got to respect that. It’s not for me to judge.

Some of them I saw come back just for ordinary bump-and-owie stuff, showing me the healing scars (inward or outward) of their old struggles. There are no words for the sense of sunrise I felt on seeing them. It made the rest worth doing.

It was all their work… but it was up to us to give them another chance to get it right.

My chance

I absolutely love to work. Being useful and productive is the bomb! If it weren’t so important to me… well, I probably would not have come down with CRPS, which stemmed from relentless overuse injuries in my case. I could not take a break to save my life. Whatever it was, I had to jump in with both feet, arms flailing and shouting “incomiiiiing!”

I imagine I could be pretty tiresome that way. Belated apologies to my friends and colleagues along the way!

I’ve been wrestling – for years (how embarrassing) – with recognizing that having fun… recreating… seeking diversion instead of merely a change of work… I’m not even sure how to put it… but that loose, apparently useless, seemingly non-productive use of my time, is really good for me.

It lowers my stress levels. It reduces my pain. It raises my spirits. I don’t know if it gives me back any of my lost abilities, because I find it incredibly hard to do and have never been able to hang onto the easy-going vibe long enough to find out.

What with one thing and another (I’m an American living stateside in January of 2025; IYKYK) I have a powerful inward pull to go somewhere glorious – and affordable, thank you very much – and simply muck about enjoying the diversions. Play tourist for once in my life. Soak up pretty colors and different sounds. Be warm every single day.

And, if I get bored or don’t like it well enough, simply go somewhere else.

At this point, a lot of places are more affordable than the U.S. (more on that later) and, for all the challenges of travel in this body, I do plan on doing nothing but recover and enjoy myself for a good while afterward.

…It’s a weird idea, honestly.

Good thing I’m used to maintaining and cultivating relationships via the internet, after a quarter century of having to do so. It makes love more portable.

It’s still a weird idea. Wherever I go, I still bring myself along, and I know I’ll have to leave my compulsiveness behind with my snowboots. That’s unnatural, but I’ll learn.

Learning to let go of that deep attachment to being productive and useful is not the same as not being productive and useful – but it could give me time and space to heal my much-clobbered systems.

That might be the point.

Rest and play is widely regarded as essential. I think that’s the “it” that I need to work on getting right. Get out from under the falling hammer of overdriving a broken system.

Still a weird idea! LOL!

The times, they are a-changing

Isy / / activity, ANS and fight-or-flight, care team, critical thinking, Dept. of Blith. Obv., humor, imp-possible, marathon, moving/traveling, nature, nutrition, perspective, politics, radical presence/radical acceptance, realpolitik, survival

Without descending into the morass of modern U. S. history and politics, let’s just say that I’d like the first months – up to half a year – of the new regime to happen with me being somewhere bearable, where good produce is a lot cheaper and the medical care both stable and affordable.

None of this is likely here, where my food prices rose about 30% during the harvest season and there is much loose talk and planned chaos around Medicare and the dole (which I depend on to stay alive) – not to mention the cost of everything rising by 15-60%.

The pundits and those who follow them tell me not to worry, because there are rules and procedures “they” have to follow.

Given the Mump track records regarding rules and procedures, all I can do is smile sweetly so as not to worry my loved ones, and let my mental gears turn more quietly.

Hot tip #1: a tariff is a tax. These get passed on to the consumers, not sucked up by the companies from countries exporting to us.

Hot tip #2: as we’ve seen so clearly over the past 5 years, industries don’t just raise costs in line with their own expenses, but jack them up to see just how much the market will bear. Given a captive market, this has gotten really ugly. Remember eggs last year? The sub-prime lending fiasco leading to the 2008-9 crash? Yeah, it’s an established pattern.

So anyway… here I am: if I stay in one place, I’ll be wrestling hard with un-meetable expenses (my dietary needs are simple, but not cheap) and a constantly-cycling urge to run away. That’s neither stable, healthy, nor fun. Been there, did that, threw away the t-shirt.

I didn’t grow up in one place, or even one country. I’m not mentally stuck here, and I don’t believe I have to put up with the scrambling anxiety or insufferable expenses to come as the Mump Regime and its trail of chaos gets itself through the initial reality-checks.

I’ve been toying with the idea that it’s healthful and good to be warm, stable, and happy. That takes adjusting to, because so much of what makes me feel anchored to the world is about work. I love to be productive. It makes me feel superbly grounded to be useful/helpful to others. This is very compelling… but as far as my daily choices go, doesn’t have a lot to do with being warm, stable, and happy.

It does have to do with abusing my eyes and attention with falling down back-lit rabbit-holes and trying to turn the swarms of information floating around in my brain into streams of relevant words, pertinent to the question I’ve just read.

But I’ve got serious limits and, as it turns out, I am much more useful and productive after I’ve been taking really good care of myself and playing and recreating and being happy outdoors – a lot.

This doesn’t sound like computer-gazing, which is how most of my work happens.

This focus on making myself happy is a weird concept, and I’m still working out a lot of the details. I mean, not even details – I haven’t settled on where to start; even my departure date is unfixed. Getting the right people in to keep my place clean & warm while I’m gone is kind of a big deal too. I’m not prepared to move and won’t sacrifice my sweet little home – not until I’ve got a much better offer in hand, anyway!

Anything could happen. I’m trying to keep breathing properly as I say that.

Maybe it’s time to take a sabbatical…

Tough gift, but a good one

Isy / / adaptation, ANS and fight-or-flight, brain care, critical thinking, humor, imp-possible, legislation, moving/traveling, perspective, politics, radical presence/radical acceptance, realpolitik, self-care

American Thanksgiving is the 4th Thursday in November. I had a gift that day – a difficult one, but I’ve been unwrapping it and wondering ever since.

Wide-eyed kitten staring at a roast chicken on table in front of its face

My phone (which has my i.d. and my bank cards in it, and it provides my only internet access) disappeared on Wednesday evening.

While this is momentous for anyone these days, I have a disease-specific reason for being harrowed by it:

  • I listen to audiobooks to drown out my brain’s ongoing response to the ongoing pain, wonky signaling, and that disconcerting imbalance between what I need and what I have or can get to keep my environment safer for my body. To me, it sounds like screaming; I’ve heard others describe it other ways, as crunchiness or a kind of rattling wobble or other experiences entirely. My sensory processing apparatus decided that it’s a constant, ongoing scream from someone too upset to be the least bit self-conscious. Audiobooks and internet rabbit-holes are fantastic ways to manage this, partly by drowning out the internally-generated sound by the external one that I want to hear, and partly with the power of distraction.
  • Pain, reasonable & irreconcilable anxiety about how I’m going to get through anything from this day to the next chapter in my life, and the occasional neurological crumping (when my cognition shuts down and my coordination goes to hell, so I can’t make ideas or hold things) … all of these are best addressed by comfort and distraction. For me, books and memes and contact with absent friends are all good for that.

For Thanksgiving – when everything is shut aaaaaaaall day – I had none of that.

I just need a moment to process this.

It was a sad day. I couldn’t make or receive any of the usual holiday calls with people I love. I couldn’t go out to eat, and the previous evening I’d had to put back all the holiday food I had in my cart and get only what I could pay for in the cash I had on hand.

I had the sweetest visit from 2 friends (I explained why I had nothing to feed them with) who made it their mission to check on me twice daily until I was en-phoned again, and that helped me get through several hours much better.

Apart from that, I had little to do but hear the screaming, and wonder what I would do next year in a country that has voted for unprecedented chaos that, on the showing so far, is liable to shatter a large part of what makes it possible for me to live. The litany starts off like this: “The level of daily chaos to come is unbearable to think about. Every time I read up on the latest plans or appointments, it gets worse.” Not good for dysautonomia, among other things.

Sketch of brain, with bits falling off and popping out, and a bandaid over the worst

At the end of the day, I began to apply a bit of cognition to this experience (as you do) and realized something important…

The screaming was a whole lot quieter than it used to be; than it was, say, a year ago.

Last year, it was a lot quieter than when I first moved in here, right before the Pandemic. That was a tough time and the screaming was so loud I had to play the audiobooks and dvds at a fairly ridiculous volume to get the benefit. (The neighbor knocked on my wall a couple of times.) That volume might be partly why I now have ongoing tinnitus, a ringing in my ears that’s always at a different pitch and volume from the inward screaming. Clearly, my brain decided not to confuse the two.

Also, I noticed that my mind had actually recovered some ebb and flow!

There were times of day where it was natural to fix things, other times for doing something creative, times to sit and be quiet and times to move around and chat with the cats…

Natural texture and dimension in my mental activity, which the constant audiobooks had smoothed out and neutralized since they came back until that day of enforced quiet.

To the able-bodied and -minded, this is perfectly natural. It didn’t used to be for me. I had 10 or 12 alarms set throughout each day to tell me exactly when to do each kind of activity, because that mental texture had been quite, quite lost.

I got through 2 nights and a day without any alarms. I survived, and I also realized that alarms are jarring.

Who knew??

It turns out that my slowly-healing autonomic system has finally agreed with me that a stable diurnal schedule is a good thing to do, so I wake up within the same half-hour every day, without needing to be kicked awake by a series of 3-4 alarms.

The phone climbed out of its hiding place the next day. (Of course, I had already thoroughly checked there.) I canceled almost all of the alarms, except the one for feeding the cat.

I can make a short list for each day and get through it by riding those mental waves – and being kind if I can’t get them done at the very time that I wish to. It seems that being kind to myself knocks down a number of stress-related barriers.

Horse & woman laughing hysterically

I’m still digesting this new experience of the world. It’ll probably continue evolving over some time to come.

It’s not exactly normal to have such a significant level of recovery when you’re close to pushing 60 and sitting on 25 years of pain-related neurological disruption, including 20 years of dysautonomia.

So yeah, it was a sad day and not an easy one, but what a gift it turned out to contain!

I needed such a gift. My life is about to change drastically, and it’s up to me to work out which path to take through it. None of them are easy, but some could be more rewarding than others.

Can’t wait to see, not only how I’ll screw up, but what I’ll learn from it!

I’m going to try something new, as I navigate this tricky shift in life: asking for input and advice from people outside my head and its rabbit-warrens of associated ideas.

I know, wild idea… and for that reason alone, probably worth trying.

 

What’s your forward path?

Isy / / adaptation, critical thinking, imp-possible, moving/traveling, perspective, politics, radical presence/radical acceptance, survival

I’ve seen more than the usual amount of material about having hope, lately.

I see why, of course. Many people view hope as an incentive to carry on when things are going badly and they can’t change that.

So, hope serves as a forward path or guiding light, a way to keep going when you’re not sure you’re going to wind up anywhere good.

Speaking as a long-term survivor of a pretty rotten condition, I certainly understand the value of that!

The point, I’d say, is the forward path itself, the guiding light that gives us the idea of having something positive to go for, when the usual ideas and activities don’t work or make things worse.

Hope is one way, but not the only way. Sometimes hope is counterproductive, and if you’re convinced that hope is the only way to keep going, that can be a real downer.

To me, hope is like a pretty lie: I’d like to believe it, but there’s no logical support for the hopeful ideas that, for instance, I could attain full remission and be able to work to support myself again, that the Atlantic circulation will strengthen again and stave off total disaster, or that my country could look forward to a survivably rational government in the new year.

And yet, some people cherish those hopes in themselves, and who am I to persuade them otherwise? Their futures are for them to envision. I’ve got to deal with my own, and that’s plenty!

My own sense of a forward path is something I have a hard time articulating…

It depends partly on the deep sense of history I grew up with, 10,000 years of the ebb and flow of human vanity, decency, terror, greed, and stunning insights.

I’ve read notes and letters from people burying their entire families in the Black Plague… between king and lord of warring states… Spanish merchants discussing trading alliances along the Great Lakes in North America in the mid-1300s, very hush-hush… Gilgamesh and his passionate grief for Enkidu… love songs from every age and between every gender… desperate missives from ancient Romans fleeing the fall of their government to families who never answered them, or told them there simply wasn’t enough to go around and still keep everyone else in their accustomed style and comfort.

Whatever we suffer, we are not alone in it. We are one more part of a very long course of events, and every problem has been faced before. It’s up to us to find the best solution for this particular version at this moment in time – and we have this great depth of information about how it has been faced before.

We are never alone in our terror, betrayal, or pain. Somehow, that helps me.

Another part is that – another lesson from history – there is a future worth having, if you can stay alive long enough and do what it takes to increase your odds.

This alone has gotten me through some things that should have been terminal: I had to see what the future worth getting to would be. So far, it’s been a fantastic outcome, relatively speaking. Well worth getting to!

The last thing, which is the hardest to explain although it’s the easiest to notice, is my stubborn idea that it’s my job to hew my best and truest path through this life – do my best while being honest about my capacity, be guided by my humane ethos, keep the long view, and don’t let the misery of my circumstances decide how I’m going to face them. That job belongs to my will. It has had a lot of practice.

Sounds really noble or something. It sure doesn’t feel noble! It feels messy and rebellious and defiant, most of the time. It requires me to disrupt expectations about how women, who are middle-aged women, who are white middle-aged women, who are white middle-aged women who originated from upper-middle social strata and good education… should behave. In short, people who are supposed to have options and protections and resources that I haven’t even been able to dream of for a very long time.

That’s what I felt I should have been. It’s a useless “should”, but a gluey one.

For all that I’m pretty cheerful (especially with the morning sun on my face, like now), I don’t have much truck with “hope”, because it feels like placing too much weight in an imaginary basket. I can bank on my diligence, curiosity, and determination, though. They aren’t imaginary at all; this blog reminds me of that.

I think that every one of us has to find the forward path or guiding thought that works for us individually in our own ways.

We’ve each got to play to our own strengths, and do our best to keep the deep-dyed “should” phrases in their place.

Sometimes hope is just another “should”, and it’s okay to set it aside for other motivators. You’re still whole without it.

Maybe it helps to know that the Darwinian statement, “survival of the fittest,” does not mean those who have the strongest minds or the healthiest bodies – despite the narrow libertarian/right-wingy assumptions and the hunter-gatherer-based ideas of cost/benefit.

It means “those most able to adapt to fit the new environment” and that, dear reader, means us: the disabled and neurodivergent are the OG adapters to strange environments, the fittest to figure out how to handle the increasingly worrying future.

One way or another, this era in history – with its uncertainties, intensity, and rising waves of change – is ours. Like it or not.

Collectively, we can do this. Individually, as ever, it’s an open question – but let’s find out.

I’m curious how this will go…

 

 

Defining my terms: burny brain

Isy / / adaptation, ANS and fight-or-flight, brain care, definitions & descriptions, imp-possible, nutrition, radical presence/radical acceptance, self-care

Current science states that there are no nerves that convey temperature or pain in the brain.

Well, not a normal brain.

Well… not as far as we know.

Since I’m terribly clear about the fact that my sensory experience of life has been extensively revised over the past quarter century of constant and increasingly centralized (that is, brain- and spine-driven) neurogenic pain, I’m going to sail sweetly right over that assumption and get on with today’s topic.

We live in the messy and extensive reality of the world outside of labs, scientific studies, and academic debates. Don’t worry about them – they’ll catch up eventually, usually in about 10-30 years.

Brain inflammation

Brain inflammation is one of those topics which patients and wholistic or ancillary professionals have been working with & evolving strategies for for years, but many clinical practitioners have trouble working out how it applies in real life, let alone how to work with it given current techniques.

Practical point:

This is not a dis of those practitioners, it reflects their environment of practice. Their training – and liability insurance coverage – focuses on what has been proven through multiple double-blind placebo-controlled studies, preferably on thousands of patients. Those take time, funding, lots of patients (which rare diseases don’t provide anyway), and a crucial position away from interfering with vested interests.

This is why clinical practice lags 10-30 years behind practical patient experience.

Where were we? Oh – brain inflammation.

One of my dear friends has been working specifically on chronic longstanding brain Inflammation, and it’s been validating as heck to see someone so smart, disciplined, and articulate work through that. Burny brain is, in my case, a sign of acute flare-ups, and talking the concepts over has helped me articulate my own situation.

And then there was Election Day and this lifelong historian & longtime spoonie saw my future get thrown on the flames.

NB: I don’t believe ideology or labeling, I believe that past performance is a good indicator of future behavior and, more importantly, that a written plan is a big fat clue about what to expect – and it’s not good for someone in my position.

After days of feeling staggered, my brain caught fire.

Inflamed brain, level 1

When a series of events, or one overwhelming and life-altering event, land in my life and awareness, my brain takes a few days to go into full bonfire mode. But it does:

Managing that

I depend on my well-established habits around self care and communication to mask my real state and continue to function, but it’s not reliable.

I crank up my vitamins, especially B complex, and do what it takes to get enough protein in. This is tricky, because eating is hard work and few things taste ok.

Keeping a stable schedule is important, to avoid feeding into the general autonomic instability.

Stabilize, stabilize, stabilize.

Since I lose track of time constantly in this state, I have to double-check whether I’ve taken my meds on time, and they’re one of the most important ways of stabilizing that there are.

If I had a bathtub, I’d take baths with vitamin C (20 min very warm; lie down on the C-powder as the bath fills) and then Epsom salt (20 min not so warm) then take naps – a fantastic 1-2-3 recovery technique that I really miss having access to. I recommend it highly.

Level 2

Once the flames get lower and my brain feels more like heavy coals, I know I’m making progress, although it doesn’t feel great:

This feeling of roaring combustion comes with big, fragile feelings. I limit contact and focus hard on noticing when & how I’m functioning, and grab tasks off the to-do list that relate to that.

So, laundry was a significant part of my weekend: no brain required, little physical effort, quick reward, and a huge improvement in my life. Now I’m  dressing off the clean laundry pile rather than my drawers & closet, because I can’t focus on folding & putting away, but that’s okay.

More veg today, partly because I was finally hungry for them, and also because protein was too difficult.

All the olive oil all the time.

Level 3

This is how my brain feels today, more or less:

Honestly, this still sucks beyond belief, but it is improvement and improvement is good. I could eat in portions larger than half-cups and palmfuls, finally.

Today, I wanted to make some calls about getting something fixed, but that wasn’t possible – I kept going blank and stumbling into furniture when I tried (burny brain comes with worse coordination).

Instead, I went and got a ball of yarn to finish a project, which felt good and freed up more focus; with that, I dropped in at the law library and learned how best to approach an issue and then did some online research with that in mind. Now, when I do make those calls that i couldnt make today, I’m actually going to be much better prepared. Still not possible, but it will be at some point.

I wanted to make progress on another administrative task (paperwork, urgh) but my friend has taught us that, even though the clock keeps ticking, when the inflamed brain says “no”, it’s useless to argue. Let it go and rest that brain.

So I put on a movie. Then a dear old friend called out of the blue and we enjoyed reconnecting. Very good for the brain!

Level 4

With any luck, tomorrow my brain will feel more like this, still raw and hot, but somewhat contained, and with more cool spots:

Unless something else happens to shake my foundations. You never know. But still, I hope for continued improvement!

If you’re having trouble understanding brain inflammation as a physiological thing, write a query in the comments and I’ll explain…

Later <grin>

 

Olive oil all the time

Isy / / basics, nutrition, self-care, what works

I’m likely to post more often, about littler things, and to mask less about the impacts of my illness and circumstances. I’m hunkering, and inviting you to join me.

Today’s topic is about a beautiful thing.

Olive oil is proof that the Earth loves us and wants us to be comfortable.

Sadly – and, I’m sorry to say, despite marvelous advertising and gorgeous labels – most of the olive oil you can buy is mixed with other oils, whether or not that’s legal or whether the labelling indicates this. This dilution is so integrated in key parts of the industry that there’s not much hope of stopping it, but honest people keep trying (https://www.foodnavigator.com/Article/2024/08/08/olive-oil-fraud-increases-in-europe).

However, it’s a big world and artisanal food is becoming more accepted and appreciated. This creates light between the cracks, so it’s still possible to get 100% olive oil that’s not diluted with something unfortunate, as long as you have a sufficiently sensitive laboratory on hand to check it with.

I do. My analytical laboratory looks remarkably like a reactive, chemically over-sensitive, mast-cell-activated human system which I’ve been working with and paying attention to almost since I was born. It’s expensive to maintain but easy to move. It goes everywhere with me, so I can always check what I eat, drink, and breathe – whether I like it or not!

It’s not always clear about the details of what it reacts to, but if there’s something at all whacky with whatever I’m taking in, my system will generally let me know in anything from moments to hours.

My body can’t stand any rancidness and it screams its head off at oils that should, theoretically, be fine – as long as they’re highly processed. Canola and deodorized oils are pure hell for me, triggering pain like ice-picks swinging into my arms and stomach.

Certain kinds of refining techniques make otherwise innocent oils do likewise, although they might fool other, more ordinary labs into reporting that there’s simply nothing amiss. Technically, there isn’t, and an ordinarily healthy body would agree with that. Lucky things.

My body has its own criteria and levels of accuracy, levels which remind me that some physiological events are triggered by molecule-sized exposures (as are hormones and immunity, even in healthy systems) rather than by mouthfuls or serving sizes.

Experience has taught me that it’s cheaper and easier to pay attention to my built-in laboratory and its reports, rather than try to convince myself it’s imaginary and the marketing, labels, and purported 3rd-party tests must be more correct than my own body. Nah… my body is a better guide about what to do for my body.

Where to start

The easiest test of olive oil’s purity is whether the oil smells olive-y. (If you don’t want olive-smelling oil, might as well use something else anyway.) I always start there.

From much experimentation over the years, I’ve found that olive oil that’s 100% Californian is pretty reliable. Almost anything can be grown in that region, but the market for adulterants (like deodorized hazelnut oil, commonly used in the Mediterranean) is hotter in their more natural state in California. I can’t really imagine California nut farmers – a proud group, not to mention bright & as profitable as possible in a drought-torn land – processing their oils into bleah and selling it for pennies on the dollar. Nope, they’ll take top dollar for their good nut oils, thankyew!

Olives are probably better-suited to California’s arid weather than thirsty nut trees. So, apparently, it still makes financial sense to deliver all-olive olive oil.

Naming names

I’ve found 2 brands of olive oil that currently work for me. There used to be 3, but one got hugely popular and ramped up their supply to meet demand and draw down prices, and (for whatever reason – I’m not making any accusations) their oil started hurting like heck.

Oil #1

Paesanol is a family-grown Italian oil. It has a slightly buttery mouth-feel with an olive-rich scent and a glorious flavor. The organic version is as good as a pain pill, actually knocking back the pain and confusion for about 4 hours, or even breaking the cycle. The price varies considerably through the seasons and right now it’s at peak price. (I stop paying attention when it gets over $30/bottle). The price should come down again when the new season is bottled and shipped, probably pretty soon.

It doesn’t have all the usual tags and certifications that a foodie might look for. I live in a great growing region and I know that good farming doesn’t always mean being willing or able to handle the extra paperwork that certificates require. Whatever its status, it works like a charm for me and I love it.

Oil #2

My go-to (now that Paesanol is out of reach price-wise) is Cobram Estate, a 100% Californian olive oil from an area I used to live in. It’s very good, though it doesn’t have quite the lush personality of Paesanol. Slightly peppery, which I like (because I can’t have real pepper any more). It marries well with other flavors, making it a wonderful base for simmering with garlic and herbs and making flavored oils with, topping soup with, mixing with veggie mash for those of us on low-residue diets, or splashing on eggs or salad or bread or anything else. Excellent all-arounder.

It helps a little with the pain, but, most reliably & importantly, it never makes it worse. That’s the key, really.

Afterthought

As food prices rise (amidst record profits for agri-biz and food suppliers, hmm), I expect to have to revisit this and try some more beautiful bountiful olive oils. I hope I can find a few that settle well and don’t hurt. It’s good to have options. 2 is not a lot of options.

Most people want a reasonable life: reasonable effort should result in a reasonable income, so they can keep a roof over their heads, feed and clothe their kids reliably, and be able to get out once in awhile.

This is increasingly difficult. That’s not reasonable.

As for me, I want to be, not only safely housed and fed, but also in not-too-much pain so I can get a few things done that help, cheer up, and inform & amuse those I care about.

Good olive oil helps. … It’s the little things.

New pain doc & big insights

Isy / / adaptation, care team, critical thinking, imp-possible, perspective, radical presence/radical acceptance, self-care

I’m profoundly curious. (Take that however you want, LOL)

When I was an inch from dying, around 12-14 years ago, when there was nothing left of anything I thought made up my life… I found, down there at the bottom of everything that had been, this relentless creature who had to know how the story would go. I could not allow death to overtake me because I’d never know. So I lived – on pure willpower for a while, but then things started to change and get better & better.

This came up in my Pain Psychology appointment today, following on from the “new pain doc” appointment I’d had the day before. I’ve had 4 pain specialists in 9 years, and (thanks to extended litigation) around 19 in the past 20. Since much more than my life depends on my pain docs, and I have no control over the situation, this is harrowing, every single time.

My medical PTSD is a main focus of my pain psychology treatment, which is how this came up for discussion.

My curiosity is clearly more fundamental than my reflexes and primal needs, so, “Let’s figure out how to use it to interrupt some primally-driven anxieties.” Today’s quote from Kylie Steinhilber, PhD, my pain psychologist. From this, we discussed 2 further insights:

  • Being inquisitive is about holding an empty mind/heart in the present: pure now, with an open eye to the unknown future.
  • Trauma responses are about having emotional context and re-experiencing that history, thinking (“knowing”) it will go this way or that way based on what’s happened before.

I’ve never realized that quite so clearly.

If this had been a rough “new pain doc” visit, I could go to the open & curious state of, “so that’s what’s here/now. I wonder where it will go?” – instead of falling into the misery and grim anxiety of “knowing” what it will be like based on prior experience.

Note to self:

BE CURIOUS about where the story will go! That is rational, even though it doesn’t come with a plan.

Prior experience matters, but it’s a lot better for me to stay open and inquisitive and be with what’s going on now. More options, less antipathy between us, and that opens up communication – which improves outcomes, even in a crap situation.

Serendipity was my brain’s home base pre-injury, & it likely still is. It’s OK to go there and hang on when things get uncertain.

I’m in the 20% of humans who thrive through a serendipitous approach, although it drives more linear people (the 80%) up a tree, because it looks crazy to them & sometimes makes them want to reach for a net – or a straight-jacket.

When I use their (the 80%’s) linear approach (which I’m technically good at; mad skillz), the best I can do is mediocrity, if that. It doesn’t work well, no matter how careful the planning and research I put into it. Makes no sense, but that’s how it goes.

Chaos and WTFery are going to find me. I’m one of those people that things happen to. No, that’s not logical, but accepting it is rational. Interesting distinction between logic and reason there.

I see my mental job as learning – over & over – how to ride the metaphorical wild horses, not keep trying to dodge their flinty hooves as they run over my well-plotted garden.

20% of humans are like this. We’re not alone, just unusual.

Note to self:

I CAN TRUST MYSELF to know how to go and when to stop. Truly.

Cf. my “15% overdo recovery time” note in my personal pain rating scale. I really do know what it means to overdo by 15%, and why it’s harder to recover from than 10%. *That’s* evidence of a high level of insight & self-management. I can perceive it accurately when I loosen my grip on “tha Plan” and listen to myself.

I said to myself, “Self…

“LET the inner story that ‘everything will go wrong’ BE WRONG.”

Some moments suck anyway, but they pass a whole lot faster when I stay curious and open and let things go differently than expected.

All that said… I am simply over the moon with delight that this “new pain doc” visit was such a good one and that I feel safe at last in that part of the system! That frees up a ton of energy, now and ongoing. The relief is stupendous.

The resident (training) physician remarked, unprompted and naturally, “After all, you are the expert in your own body.”

Hearing that from a doctor is a show-stopper. As one friend & compatriot said, “I’d be less surprised if a unicorn came to your door and told you you’d won the lottery.”

It feels a bit like that..

Photos from today’s walk, #1

Isy / / activity, brain care, nature

I got into the habit of sharing photos from my outings with a bedbound friend of mine. She left this world years ago, but I still like taking pictures of things I find beautiful, and I still want to share them. My social media tool is buggy about pictures, so I’ve given up on sharing images that way. (Nope, I’m not taking on another platform. Not with this pile of curds in my skull.)

Then I remembered that I have a blog… 🤣

So, here’s today’s crop of images, from a pretty corner of the world that’s now experiencing Autumn.

Note: no filters applied, except for the 1 that’s noted…

Applied a filter to reduce the sun-glare and put the colors back, so you can see what I saw

I absolutely love soaking in the colors here. Thank you for joining me.

First aid at the roadside

Isy / / basics, injuries & surgeries, moving/traveling, perspective, radical presence/radical acceptance, tools and techniques, what works

[Follow this link for the audio version: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/2024-09-07-1staidatroadside–61297573]

I headed to psychotherapy after texting, “I’m on my way. I’ll see you in person today, barring the unexpected”

I was feeling a bit cautious, because a couple hours before, the thought had come to me, “when things get hectic, trust your training.”

What training? Was I about to have a series of intrusive thoughts harking back to the times I’ve had to file restraining orders, one of which magically disappeared and I had to flee the area – right before Christmas? I hoped not. Martial arts training has certainly come in handy, but come on…

No, no intrusive thoughts, but I did wonder which set of training I should have in mind.

A few miles down the interstate, I saw a pickup truck stopped dead, and a sedan facing it.

People were only just getting out of the truck. I put my flashers on and pulled in behind.

I definitely trust my training in this kind of situation. I put my anxiety to one side and sailed in.

The only person to worry about was a littlie in the back of the sedan. Had spontaneous pulse – a good one – and respirations. He could speak, to the limit of saying, “I want my Mommy” (sound of heart-strings tearing), so I checked his spine at his neck. It was there, but not quite right. Once he could speak more, he told me his neck hurt where I touched it (I’d been holding his head & neck stable since I felt it). As I told the fire department medic later, “on me, it’d be a chiropractic adjustment. On a littlie that age, I’m not sure.” He nodded and sent his buddy in with a pediatric cervical collar.

Littlie’s mother was on the phone the whole time with him. So much love swirling around in that car. I told the Dad that I noticed it, and that it’s healing.

At each stage – or rather, just before the next round of excitement – I explained to Littlie that there would be more people, highly trained people who really cared about him being okay. Let him know roughly what to expect at each stage. Coached him to go along with things as well as he could. When the fireman asked him to squeeze his finger, he squeezed my hand instead (sound of heart melting).

I could see most of my words going over his head (as expected), but I could also see the sense of reason and structure calming his exhausted and shocky brain so he could tune in a little more.

I grew up in a musical household, so naturally I hummed pretty little made-up tunes and it visibly calmed him – and possibly his parents too, a little.

I’ve been working on learning how to stabilize a shocky system for 25 years, on top of my trauma nursing work. I’m only a patient – and a nerd – but still, I have lots of good training. I trusted my training in that, too.

I gave his mother my number right before the fire department and EMTs rolled up. I think it was a training day, because there were 7 or 8 more people there, one of them a cheerful charming know-it-all (every team needs one of those) who got the best responses out of Littlie.

I let the kid know I had to go but his Mommy would stay on the phone with him and he’d be cared for by these really nice people. Told his Mom I loved her kid and he was terrific (sound of heart-strings pulling).

Once his c-collar was on (definitely a training day; I helped get it positioned and sealed correctly in the end) and they had the gurney ready, I realized I had to stand up. After perching my crippled butt by one hip on a steel door frame for half an hour. In front of people. Specifically, a total of 9 or 10 fit, athletic slabs of beef (-cake) no less than 10 years younger than me, and most of them half my age.

This was not going to be great for the ego, but I knew I could get a laugh out of it.

So I used both arms and every available leg (which was slightly less than 2) to lever myself upward, saying, “I’m an *oooold* trauma nurse” by way of cover, and squirmed through the kindly, protective testosteronic press and into fresh air.

I signed off with everybody and retreated to my comfy car.

I called my psychotherapist and said, “Remember what I said about ‘barring the unexpected?’…”

We had a phone session once I was safely off on a side street and in a proper parking space. She was full of commentary about how I applied those psych skills and met psychosocial and informational needs appropriately, as well as the nursey stuff. So yeah, that was good…

… because my brain was churning constantly about every single moment and thought and decision for an entire hour. Looking for a fault. Looking for something I’d missed or where my training had lapsed or been forgotten. Cycling through, over and over, looking for any lapse.

This used to be how I improved my skills – look for errors, even tiny ones, and figure out how to prevent or avoid them in future. Now, it’s just my ADHD brain torturing me.

And computer says Nope. Failed to suck. I’m pretty sure I failed to suck. That’s a relief.

I’ve been thinking about it pretty much nonstop, but rather than worrying myself woolly, I got an organizing thing for my car and picked up some food. Both of these are calming, grounding things, perfect for pulling my adrenaline out of the stratosphere.

Then I crawled home and had fresh corn and gluten-free carrot cake for dinner. It’s good to have a little sweetness when your body is still convinced the world is full of excoriation.

I’ve had no calls from them and I don’t expect one. They’ve got to be absolutely wrung out regardless of how things went. The kid comes first, and then comes their own care and self-management.

They don’t have to think of me ever again: I know how shocking and painful it could be to revisit the moment.

I’d love to know. I hope like crazy that the kid came out of it OK. I never got to follow up with patients when I was a nurse (because confidentiality), and I’d sure appreciate it if this family wanted to give me a heads-up just to soothe that old itch.

All that being said, I want all you non-nurses to know that they don’t owe me one word of contact or one moment of concern. I was in the right place at the right time with the right training, and I trusted my training. That’s what we do.

They have the hard part: figuring out next steps with a shook-up and possibly injured Littlie who was going home early because he was already ill.

That kid was having a rotten day.

I sure hope it got better.

Forestalling future problems

I don’t have a jump-kit for my car. That could be a problem in the future. I was lucky this time because all I needed was my brain, arms, hands, and voice.

It’s probably the 6th or 7th accident I’ve stopped at and I really do know what’s needed at the roadside – and it isn’t much. I used to get confused by the fact that I didn’t have a stethoscope, oxygen on tap, i.v. gear, and All Tha Meds. Once I’m on scene, though, it gets very easy.

Any blood or, indeed, anything wet? Nitrile gloves, packed up in pairs and stowed in a closed outer pocket to keep them clean & dry and easy to get on.

Heaven forbid, does anybody need CPR? This very rarely happens, but when it does, I don’t want to have to dig for the needful. I physically can’t do chest compressions (though I can coach any able-bodied person properly) but I can darned well use a mask with a one-way valve as if I’ve had years of practice. Years. You don’t have to have that (the training has shifted away from doing rescue breathing) but I feel that I do.

Pressure dressing? Kerlix. Sling? Kerlix. Wound cleaning? Kerlix makes a great sponge. Wound wrap? Kerlix. Piece of clean water-resistant paper to slap over a bubbling wound? Wrapping off a Kerlix.

So, plenty of Kerlix.

Road rash? Plenty of saline rinse (and a Kerlix) then a petroleum dressing to stabilize the damage until the ER can do a better job.

And possibly most essential: disinfectant cleansing towels, individually wrapped and big enough to grab. Those get used before if there’s time, during if the patient wants cleaning up, and definitely afterwards.

Because allergies & neurological reactivity, I stick with ethyl alcohol 70%.

Secure the mess. A gallon-sized zip bag or 2 for garbage and wrappings. Having a garbage bag is one of the things that separates rescuers from ego-trippers.

Oh, did I say that out loud? Sorry. I don’t want anyone not to stop & help… I just wish that, if they’re going to the effort of bringing gear, they could pick up a bit. Seeing blood and mess is not good for survivors & passers-by.

I got all these online for about $10 each, and also got a clear bag (with outside pockets) to put the kit in.

I’ll keep backstock at home.

What I don’t carry

Blood pressure readings, stethoscopes, and pulse oximetry are at-home and in-hospital concerns: we want to know if what we’re doing is working over time and refine our understanding of the body’sfunctional state.

In the field, the main issue is not whether the patient has rales or a murmur, but whether the lungs and heart are keeping them alive – a much simpler, larger-grained issue.

So, these tools might be nice to have, but for a noodle-noggin like me, they’re an added complication and a bunch of expensive equipment to lose at the scene.

In the field,

  • You need to keep pulse and respirations going,
  • the spine stable,
  • make sure the inside stuff stays inside
  • and in place,
  • and (as much as possible) the outside stuff stays out – or at least doesn’t move much where it’s inside the person.

And that, ladies and gentlebeings, is Advanced First Aid and Basic Life Support in a nutshell. You’re welcome 😊 Now go get that training… please?